Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Once, I thought of being young forever....

It is hot. And muggy. And down right uncomfortable. And it is lasting, for days now. Our local newspaper made the astute observation that 'energy use' is up during the heat wave.  And it is  no never mind exactly how high the temperature is, or the dew point for that matter, and we really don't care what this 'heat index' thing is, it is just plain hot, muggy and uncomfortable. The last time, if I remember correctly, that it was this hot was the summer my daughter was born, twenty-two years ago, and we lived in one air-conditioned bedroom.  It was almost two weeks of temperatures over ninety and a woman who is nine months pregnant, and two weeks beyond her due date, does like a cool room.  It was impossible to cool the downstairs and cooking in the kitchen was impossible.  I remember getting carry-out a lot and cooking on the grill outside.  Making jello and macaroni salads late at night when the kitchen did cool a bit.  I remember the heat spell broke the day my daughter was born, on July 15th.  It is what I remember.... the three of us, my wife and I, our three year old son... sitting on the old iron bed upstairs in that one air conditioned room, eating up there, watching TV, playing cards, waiting four the fourth family member to show up.  I forget how old I was, though I could calculate it, and that is not important.  What it is... is that heat wave left me with an indelible remembrance of things felt.  I remember that correctly.  Weather will do that for you.

Extreme cold will do the same.  I think it was January of '77 and we hit a stretch of about 34 days where the temperature only rose ABOVE zero once.  Mind numbing cold.  Days of minus 20 degrees, or -30 and exorbitantly gusty wind chills, even once, they sadi, if I remember correctly,  of -75.  But again, it is not so much the weather that you remember as much as what occurred during that weather. We were young yet, my friends and I, and mostly just out of college or still in grad school.  Cars would not start well, or at least the vintage of cars that we owned.  I remember mine did, a '88 Rambler with a tank heater. And that I lived alone in a decent sized little one story bungalow with a fair sized dining room with a big table, the consequence being that I would pick up folks and my house became a nights and weekend hang- out.  No one wanting to walk out in the cold or venture too far where your car could freeze up. And we would play Risk and backgammon and cribbage and Sheepshead... and cook community meals and pool money for beer.  The cold created a family of sorts then. And I will never forget those people, ever.

The heat wave that I really remember is the one that happened when I was twelve, right before my birthday and the start of eighth grade.  Now that is a strange time in any boy's life and I was not an exception.  I still had to complete a grade at the Catholic School, I prospect I abhorred beyond measure.  Most of my friends were already at the Junior High and getting ready for football in the fall, something that did not exist at St. Patrick's, Nuns being unusually inept in the sport. To add to my discomfort that summer was the 'tweener' thing.  Too old for all the amusements that used to work and too young for the ones you hoped lay just on the horizon.  There was no cable TV, no video, no had nothing but your friends to hang out with, and that was good, good friends who were all in the same shape you were. Girls were an interest, but that was something else we were too young for, or at least for more than talking about. You felt that you wanted to stay young forever, and could not wait to grow up.  Whatever that meant.

And so it was that summer as a heat wave enclose the hills of Western Wisconsin. The days would swelter and we would swim in the lake. Nights we would hang at someone's house and talk.  Or go down to one of the creeks and drink soda... and talk.  Fog would come cruising in along those creek banks after sunset and give you the only air-conditioning available. It was that kind of summer. Teen angst just heating it up a little more. I remember that summer well, for many reasons. A prime one was that my brother, older by three and a half years and a very big guy, had taken up the habit of antagonizing some of the 'bad' boys in town who in turn, not able to touch him, had taken up the habit of unleashing their frustrations on me. It was just the way it was in small towns. It sure didn't lessen the anxiety, though, and after a few scuffles which found me on the short end, I was starting to work out on a speed bag thinking that a good left jab is a nice thing to possess.  But I digress.

The thing I remember most that summer, during that heat wave, was that I discovered what love is and how discovering it in the way that I did made me think I would never really know what love was, or at least not with the intensity that I wanted.  That is a perilous ledge for a twelve year old to peer off of, but I will tell you about it.  I was there.  It was a hot summer.

So the word was, that day in early August 1960 something, was Hugo Mueller was looking for me.  Not a good thing, see, cause Hugo was mostly known by his nickname, Huge, and that he was. Well over six feet and possessed of a wardrobe that consisted mostly of black t-shirts that never quite covered his enormous middle girth, Huge Mueller was definitely a person to avoid.  My Big Brother had obviously pissed him off and he was going to settle it by finding me.  I would avoid that at all costs.  Spent the day at the public swimming pool, where he couldn't touch me, rather than going to the lake.  Spent most of the early evening at home.  Hugo was also noted for not being extremely brigh as well as for being big.  he would forget me soon enough, I thought.

That evening I got a call from a friend, Mike, explaining we were going to Greg's house, just hang out, Ross, too. I meet Mike and Ross downtown by the small bridge that spanned Beaver Creek.

So that is how it was, that night, the three of us walking to Greg's house at duck, the elm trees, all lost just years later, were a nice shady canopy and it was cool in there shade. It helped, the breeze through the forget all that was bothering you. I remember I felt relaxed and had a feeling that what ever the trouble in my mind was, it could wait.

Mike spotted him first, and at first I thought he had seen Hugo, but instead he pointed to what looked like a heap of rags on the sidewalk. Ross identified it better, as an old man on the ground. The three of us rushed over, and sure enough, it was an old man wearing a sport coat and tie in the heat, a gasping sound coming up deep from his throat.  Now, we didn't have cell phones and none of us thought of the obvious thing, to knock on the nearest door and use a phone.  Mike said he would run to the hospital and get help; Ross would run to the Police Station... both were just blocks away.  " YOU stay with him," Mike said, " you're the Boy Scout!"  Which I had been, and not much of one, if the truth were known.  But that is how it was, if I remember correctly and so began ten minutes that would stay with me forever.

I did what I remembered to do from what I had read for one stupid merit badge. I loosened his tie, tilted his head back and opened his mouth and checked that he wasn't choking on his tongue. He wqsn't breathing, or did not appear to be.  There really wasn't much thinking on my part.  I pinched his nose and, taking a deep gulp of air, started mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. Or at least as much as I remembered from that merit badge pamphlet.  I was still doing it when the cops came.  The first cop did whqat I never thought to do... check for a pulse. "He's gone," he said, just about the same way you would say the Braves had beaten the Dodgers.  The old guy's wife then showed up. I guess she had run to their house to use a phone. "Henry," she was crying, over and over.  I remember another cop telling her that 'sorry' there isn't much more to do, ma'am.  I was still kneeling by the now dead old guy, had his head cradled in one hand.  She knelt on the other side, and put her hands on his cheeks. "Oh Henry, Henry, " she cried, "What will I do now?" Then, and I will never forget this, she looked directly at me and said, "Where will I be now?"  I looked directly into her eyes and knew..... 
that I  wanted to stay young forever, and could  wait to grow up.  Whatever that meant, and that love might just be a stroll through breezy elms.... on a hot summer night, and that I may never know where I will be now, or ever.


Mauigirl said...

Beautiful post...

And yes, I would've been happy to stay young too...being grown up comes with so many sad complications.

Michael said...

As usual, your post is very revealing and compassionate. A tip of the hat to you, kind sir. I too was a Boy Scout and, as you say, not much of one. Several years ago, on a whim, I decided to take a CPR course at the local college. The day AFTER getting my certificate I went to the local supermarket for various sundries. After parking my car I noticed a gentleman laying on the ground, slush and snow all around him. He was awake but not particularly aware. I did all the things that you needed to do...checked his awareness, called 911 and kept him company to check on his vitals. To make a long story short he was brought to the hospital where he was put into the ICU. I visited him
to check how he was doing and realized that he was a LONG lost friend of the family that no one had seen in a very long time. On the third day In I returned to wish him a great day and to see how he was doing. To my chagrin I was told that he had passed away the night before due to complications of Diabetes and heart related problems. While this was certainly not on the level of pathos that you encountered, it haunted me for a while and to this day I renew my CPR certification. Keep up the great writing, your posts are always welcome.

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